Practical Tip: Discovering Values

Values are what motivates us, our drive, but they also define our boundaries. Practiced values are one of the keys to a fulfilling (professional) life. Go on a journey to discover your values and get to know yourself and your tandem partner better.

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Every person has values, which define their actions and scope of life. Today’s Practical Tip is an invitation to define the values currently important to you and to discuss in your tandem why these specific values matter to you right now. This way you will get to know yourself better and gain important insights for future steps because values and goals are closely linked. A goal will be gratifying if it matches one’s values. Over the course of life values may change. A professional career, for example, may have been on top of the hierarchy of values but this could have changed through personal experiences, such as the birth of a child, a separation or after having worked for many years, and other values may have become more important.

Allow for 1-1,5 hours and take these three steps together.

Step 1: Collecting your own values
As a first round, take some time and separately collect those values relevant to you. Add to the list if necessary.

ability to compromise – ability to solve problems – accept challenges – acceptance – accuracy – accurateness – achievement – acquittal – activity – advantage – adventure – affiliation – ambition – assertiveness – attentiveness – attractiveness – authenticity – authenticity – awareness of ecology
backing – binding – bounty
calmness – capacity for teamwork – career – change – cheerfulness – children – confidence – cooperation – cooperativeness – creativity
domesticity
enterprising spirit – enthusiasm – evolution
fair-mindedness – family – feeling of security – fitness – freedom – friends – friendship – future orientation
growth (personal, mental)
happiness – hardiness – harmony – health – honesty – humor
independence – intellect – intelligence – interpersonal heartiness
justice
leadership ability – learning – leisure time – lifestyle – love – loyalty
mobility – money
nostalgia
openness for new minds and ways – optimism – organization – ownership
partnership –perfectionism – personal responsibility – pleasure – politeness – popularity – power – pragmatism – progress – prominence – promotion – prosperity
quietness
recreation – relationship building – reliability – reputation – respect – romantic
safety – scope for development – self-worth – sense of responsibility – sexuality – signification – sociability – sportiness – strength of purpose – success – sustainability – sympathy
tenacity – tolerance – tradition
unconcern
valuation – victory – vision – vitality
wealthiness

Step 2: Selecting especially important values
Using a process of elimination first reduce the collected values to ten, then later to five values, which you should prioritise.

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Step 3: Tandem discussion
Present the five most important values to each other and explain to your tandem partner what you connect with the respective value. The mentee starts, it is the mentor’s turn afterwards.

Start a conversation about the values. Do you share each other values? Do you have different ideas about the values? What are they based on?

I hope you will have an inspiring discussion.